Remembering important dates speaks volumes

Anniversaries and birthdays often carry with them memories and expectations of joyous moments. But for those affected by suicide, these days can also bring complicated feelings of pain or guilt. 

When supporting those affected by suicide, try to learn about important dates connected with their experience so you can honour their wishes about how the day is acknowledged.

To a loss survivor, you can say:

“I remember you telling me that your loved one’s birthday was XX. Would it be okay if I reached out to you to say hello that day?” or “I’d like to know how I can support you on the day that you lost your loved one. Would you mind sharing that with me?”

To an attempt survivor, you can say:

“I know some days can be tougher than others when thinking about your experience. Is there something I can offer to help you on those days?”

Incorporating this practice into your interactions with those you serve can make a huge difference in their recovery and/or grief journey. Knowing that someone remembers and is honouring these sacred days lets the person know that they are not alone and that they are deeply cared for.